How to Recognize Narcissism? Here is: ME, Me, just Me! I’m great. I AM GREAT! You are small!
Pathologic narcissism (malignant self-love) in a clinical sense refers to a personality disorder in which the person concerned is not to be able to control his or her self-esteem in a balanced way. The maintenance of self-esteem is difficult for all people from time to time. Because of the narcissistic person’s early injuries, he tries to protect himself from the real frustrations in an alternative way.
Narcissist definition and traits
From an early childhood unconsciously develops a grandiose self – who is victorious, admired, acknowledged, perfect, and privileged. They use their environment to experience and maintain that false self-image. If there is failure or disappointment, which may appear to be small or incomprehensible to the outside world, then it’s magnified in their imagination.
In our developmental age (6 months to 6 years), we are all “narcissists.” Primeval narcissism is a useful and critically important defense mechanism. As the baby separates from her mother and becomes an individual, she lives through many fears, and pains. Narcissism protects the child from negative emotions.
In early adolescence, empathic support of parents, and their peers are essential to developing stable self-esteem, and self-confidence.
Are narcissistic personality likable?
Narcissistic people like themselves. Those who have narcissistic personality disorder tend to function steadily in this glorious state where either real success, recognition, admiration, individual attention, and treatment, applause and empowerment dominate, or in their imagination, they are superb, prominent, and worth more than others. The disadvantage of this comedy is that it is loosely linked to reality and creates a human environment that is very divided: it breaks down to upgraded and downgraded actors who are often in conflict with each other.
The narcissist is non-empathic, envious, jealous, arrogant, exploitative or even cruel and tends to cause suffering to others. The narcissistic person can not care about other people. They manipulate, exploit, and use others. It may seem that there are people who are extraordinarily valuable for them, but their job is merely to feed the narcissist self-esteem.
Another important feature is that they are arrogant, smug, and seem overly confident. That is part of the defensive mechanism. The narcissist considers themselves unique and feels that only other similarly talented people can understand them or make contact with them.
Narcissist continuously thinks they do not receive the attention and respect they deserve, and all this is the result of the fact that the others are too dumb and ignorant to recognize them. They often envy other people. They think they have got more from life than them. They are confident that they are the ones who deserve more than others.
The narcissist often fantasizes about success, fame, and recognition because they need to fill their emotional space in their souls or divert their feelings of dissatisfaction.
Narcissistic people are extremely selfish
Anything interesting to them is primarily about them. They do not have enough energy to take into account the needs or feelings of others, as their requirements are never satisfied. Not surprisingly, they are too preoccupied with their own spiritual needs and not listening to others.
Think about it: you can not afford to give away something whatsoever you have never received. The other person is only valuable for them until they have a positive effect on them.
Those people react to any criticism, disrespect, hypersensitivity, and sometimes with anger. Most likely, the sufferers of those outbreaks who are closest to them or live with them.
The characteristics of the narcissistic’s inner world are extreme self-centeredness, grandeur, and a constant feeling of insecurity, boredom, and emptiness. Relationships of a narcissist paradoxically depend on admiration, but they hate dependency and lack commitment. Irritated, selfish, jealous, basically, and quickly devalue other people.
How to raise a narcissistic person?
Some mothers tend to be unrealistic about their kids — usually the ones who are idealistic about themselves. They keep telling the kid that she/he is the most clever and most beautiful of all the children, no matter if she/he is a little dinghy, or a squint, or a little anything. She even makes the child believe that she would win any beauty contest because she is hers.
A narcissistic mother raise narcissistic kids
The ignorant mother assures the kid for everything, promises the child that she/he can be anything, and can achieve anything if working for it, but only a few can go this way.
For example, She dresses her daughter to a princess or a queen. Call her princess or queen. Promise her to be a princess one day because she is so beautiful and so unique. Make thousands of pictures, spam the web and all her acquaintances with the dumb pictures with the firm belief that everybody will faint in pleasure. Checking in every hour with the daughter how many likes she gets. The two of them, they call the likers subjects.
In the meantime, she has had planted a false hope in the child that will result in the child becoming a self-conscious, arrogant, overly confident smug trying to rise above other children and even adults. As an adult, in extreme cases, they will be narcissistic, or they will be disappointed since they are not as beautiful, talented and skilled as their mother has deceived them for years – with good intent but with ignorance.
No wonder we are living in an age where narcissism becomes epidemic.
Since it’s a personality disorder, not an illness, it can’t be cured or treated. All you can do is avoid or get rid of people who have this repulsive personality.
Reference: Psychology Today